Protecting yourself from the self-sabotaging trap.
I did something recently that is terribly annoying. I started exercising. Again. My inability to consistently exercise is a source of great frustration to me. I’m the classic example of a yo-yo exerciser. I do it, feel amazing, get lazy, slowly fade out, and then gain 25 pounds and feel miserable. Then I repeat the process. Sound familiar?
When I find myself at the place of starting over again, I feel trapped. I find myself wanting to get healthy but comparing my current condition with those at the top of the physical pinnacle. I look at friends who do Cross Fit or those posting about their “incredible 40-mile bike ride” and then find myself not wanting to even move from the couch at all. Let’s be honest. I get winded walking up the stairs! So how in the world will I ever get back in shape in like those superheroes I see all around me!?
Let’s be honest. I get winded walking up the stairs! So how in the world will I ever get back in shape in like those superheroes I see all around me!?
The problem, of course, is my aiming point. I have raised the standard so high that it keeps me from ever starting where I am. Exercising seems so impossible in these moments and I feel anything but optimistic in the beginning. But optimism is exactly what we need to start and win. (I wrote about why that’s true here).
So how can we keep ourselves from this self-sabotaging trap and get started exercising again even when we don’t feel like it? Here’s what I suggest. (more…)
What Andy Andrews discovered that can change your life.
What if I told you that your life could be great but that the way to greatness required continual adversity? Would you still choose it? I believe that there is something inside each of us that wants to be great. But the road to greatness is wrought with trouble, doubt, and fear. When facing adversity a decision must be made; do we shrink back in fear or do we move forward in confidence and courage?
I was reading through Andy Andrews book, The Seven Decisions, (which is as good as The Traveler’s Gift –the book where he introduces The Seven Decisions) and he addresses the issue of adversity and it’s correlation to greatness. Andy’s message is clear:
You have a decision to make when it comes to dealing with adversity in your life. You can let it cripple you (like it almost did him) or you can learn to embrace it.
Here’s his story and what he discovered that can change so much for you.
Conflict is inevitable in relationships. Whether it is with siblings, spouses, co-workers, employees, in-laws, or while dating, disagreements happen and conflicts arise. How we deal with these issues, however, is where the rubber meets the road. It is here that we must learn to deal with conflict in a way that maintains the relationship and moves it forward.
One of the best principles that I have found and try to hold on to when dealing with conflict is this:
“My response is my responsibility.”
That is a principle worth embracing. In fact, it is learning to respond to conflict – rather than reacting to it – that will make the biggest difference when the next conflict comes around. You can’t control how anyone else responds. But you can control how you do.
Here are a few ways that you can keep your relationships intact as you learn to deal with conflict by responding and not reacting. (more…)
Parades, stones, plaques, trees and many other things like these are commonly used as memorials. They are important ways for us to remember key events and people have meant so much to us. Today, in our country, we memorialize and remember all of those who served, fought, sacrificed, and died so that we would be free.
But a memorial is meant to be more than just a memory.
The memory is important. But our actions are even more important than the memory. For the actions we take are the evidence of our thankfulness.
Today, as we remember those who have given so much, it is important that we also remember to act on their behalf.
If you don't have these yet you'll be praying that will!
Think about all of God’s gifts in your life. They would fill up page after page if you were to write them all down. In fact, I think you should! Take some time to reflect on them and write them down in a journal so you can see them in front of you. It’s an amazing exercise and fills your heart with immense gratitude.
But there are underrated and unexpected gifts that we rarely reflect on enough. See if you can find them in this passage. There are 3 that stand out the most. (more…)
What a spy taught me about the process of better thinking.
How you think is rarely discussed. What to think, however, is everywhere. Wherever you go there is someone offering their opinions and on what to think. Self-help books, blogs (like this one), talk shows, celebrity Twitter feeds, news and media outlets, and more. But what about the process of thinking? What should we think about that?
In his short and engaging book, John Braddock writes about this very topic from his perspective as a real-life spy. The book (which you can read for free with Amazon’s Kindle Unlimited program) is called, A Spy’s Guide to Thinking, and is a fascinating read. John (I doubt that’s his real name) highlights something that I found very helpful and applicable in each of the 7 key areas of life that we discuss here each week in my blog.
Here is how John describes how we think and how we can do it better once we know and understand this process. (more…)
3 Key Lessons on why this principle (and book) are essential to life
Ownership is tough. Extreme Ownership is even tougher. It is something that most of us if we’re brutally honest, don’t do very well. We live in a society that applauds and seemingly encourages blame and finger-pointing on everyone and everything other the person in the mirror. That is why this principle and the book with the same name is so vital today. (Be sure to watch the short TED Talk below by co-author, Jocko Willink. You will be captivated and inspired by what he has to say.)
The book, Extreme Ownership, is written by former Navy SEALs, Jocko Willink and Leif Babin. In it, these American heroes relate their stories and many of the lessons they have learned and demonstrate how this principle of Extreme Ownership is invaluable in all of life and business.
While there are many takeaways that could be pointed out, I want to focus this short blog post on just 3 key lessons that are absolutely essential and can change how you approach life and business every day. (more…)